How to Find a Counsellor, Psychotherapist or Life Coach

Posted February 13th, 2012

“Finding a counsellor, life coach or psychotherapist, with the right skills to help you – can save you time, money and significantly increase your chances of success.”

This blog provides useful tips on how to find a counsellor, life coach or psychotherapist who can help you achieve positive results.

When we ask our clients why they have come to us for counselling, coaching or psychotherapy, many report they’ve had previous therapy. When we ask, what made you seek help again? They often report that their previous therapist gave them some relief at that time. They provided a space to talk but fell short of enabling them to really understand root cause of their problems or provide strategies for improving their situation, in a lasting way. We know it doesn’t have to be that way.

A good psychotherapist or counsellor can enable you to achieve changes that will last. We realised a lot of people don’t know this. To help you find a therapist, who can really help you, we provided some essential tips below.

Questions to Help You Find a Counsellor or Psychotherapist

  • Do they explain clearly how they work on their website? Does it make sense to you?
  • Do they have a good level of training (minimum 6 years), qualifications and experience (minimum 5 years – ideally 8 years +)?
  • Are they open to you telephoning or emailing and asking questions before making an appointment?
  • Does the therapist have experience in working with the issues you want to deal with?
  • Ask them what made them choose their profession. Are you happy with their answer?
  • Have they testimonials from clients which will tell you how others have found working with them?
  • It’s good to contact a few different therapists so you can compare responses.
  • When you telephone or meet with them, do you feel they understand what you are talking about? Do they understand what you want from therapy and/or help you to clarify what a good outcome will be for you? Do you feel some relief? Have you gained a little understanding? Does their approach seem to have some potential to help you?
  • Alongside your thinking, a key element to making a good choice is listening to your gut feelings. If your gut has a warm comfortable response to the above questions, this is a good sign. Then it’s worth making an appointment with that therapist.

What signs suggest a counsellor might not be helpful to you?

  • During your first telephone conversation you feel the therapist hasn’t quite understood what you’re looking for.
  • You get an uncomfortable feeling talking to them.
  • What they say doesn’t make clear sense to you.
  • If in your first meeting you feel confused, overwhelmed or frustrated. Then you should seriously consider checking out someone else.

A good psychotherapist will help you find clarity and you should start to feel some sense of relief and potential in a first meeting. If you don’t, don’t book another appointment! Save yourself time and money by looking for someone more suitable.

Give Yourself Time to Find the Best Psychotherapist

When you are struggling to get a grip on tricky problems it takes courage and strength to seek help. You deserve the best help possible. Even if your need for help is urgent, I strongly recommend you allow yourself enough time to find a therapist who you feel comfortable with and think you can learn from. This will increase your opportunity to make the changes you want. Rushing and choosing someone quickly, because you need help now, can end up being a painful, expensive experience, if it turns out they are really not right for you. Taking a little time in advance, to really check out your potential therapist, could save you a lot of time and money and increase your chances of getting the results you want. You deserve the best, so give yourself a little time to find it.

If we can be of further help or you have any questions, just email or call us and we will be pleased to respond.

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