Discernment Counselling in London
With a National Award (BACP) for clinical excellence in counselling and psychotherapy, our Director, Maggie Morrow, leads a team of expert couples therapists in London, skilled in Discernment Therapy. When there is uncertainty in your relationship, we can provide the expertise to help you gain clarity and confidence about your next steps,
Let us take the guesswork out of finding the right help. With over 30 years of experience, our Clinical Directors can recommend a couples counsellor with the expertise to help you and your partner move forward with renewed understanding and direction.
We offer therapy rooms in Central London, the City of London and online therapy options.
How Can KlearMinds Discernment Therapy Help You?
At KlearMinds, we understand that being uncertain about the future of your relationship can feel confusing and difficult. Sometimes one partner is leaning toward leaving, while the other hopes to stay and rebuild. When you find yourselves in this situation, discernment therapy can help. Discernment Therapy is designed for couples in this situation. Rather than trying to solve relationship issues directly, it gives you both the opportunity to step back, reflect, and gain clarity about your options. Our experienced discernment therapists provide a supportive space where each partner can be heard and understood without pressure or judgment.
A KlearMinds Discernment Therapist can help you and your partner:
- Gain clarity about your relationship and your individual hopes for the future
- Explore whether to try to rebuild the relationship through therapy, move towards separation, or postpone the decision
- Understand the dynamics that have brought you to this point, without pressure to immediately “fix” them
- Learn how each of you may be contributing to the challenges in the relationship
- Receive support in making thoughtful, informed decisions that respect both partners’ perspectives
- If separation becomes the choice, approach it with respect, care, and the best possible foundation for moving forward
Discernment Therapy isn’t about pushing you towards staying together or apart, it’s about helping both partners reach greater understanding and confidence in whichever path you choose.
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Meet Our Discernment Counsellors
Paul Glynn
Clinical Director, Psychotherapist, Counsellor & Couples Therapist
MSc Counselling, PG Adv Cert CBT, Adv Cert Clinical Supervision, BPhil, MBACP (Accred)Paul Glynn holds over 35 years experience.
Rachel Power
Couples Therapist, Psychotherapist, Coach
PG Dip Psychotherapy, MSc Career Coaching, Dip CSB, MA, MA, BA (Hons), BACP, FHEAOver 15 years experience as a life and career coach, 10 years in therapeutic work.
Tania Turner
Counsellor & Couples Therapist
BA (hons) Psychotherapeutic Counselling, Couples Counselling Cert, Mindfulness Cert, MBACPOver 11 years experience in psychotherapy & couples counselling.
Annette Wozniak
Clinical Psychologist
MA Clinical Psychology, BA (Hons) Psychology, HDEd, BA, HCPCAnnette holds over 17 years experience.
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Who is Discernment Therapy For?
Discernment Counselling is not intended for couples who are already united and fully committed to rebuilding their relationship. Those couples are best served by traditional couples therapy, where the focus is on active repair and growth. Instead, Discernment Counselling is designed for couples who are at a crossroads, where clarity is needed before deeper work can begin. It is especially helpful if you and your partner:
- Feel uncertain about the future of your relationship — you may be torn between staying together or separating, and need space to step back and evaluate.
- Have different levels of commitment right now — one of you may be “leaning out,” unsure or considering leaving, while the other is “leaning in” and hoping to restore the relationship.
- Want a safe, structured environment to explore options — without pressure, judgment, or the expectation that you must commit to therapy or separation right away.
- Need support in making a thoughtful, well-informed decision — so that whichever path you choose, you can move forward with clarity, confidence, and respect for one another.
Benefits of Discernment Therapy
Rather than staying stuck in a cycle of doubt or conflict, Discernment Counselling helps you move from a place of indecision to making a clear, confident choice about the future of your relationship. Through this short-term, focused process, you and your partner will gain:
- Greater clarity about the future of your relationship
- A deeper understanding of what has led to the current difficulties
- Tools to communicate openly about what each of you needs
- Support in making decisions with confidence and care
- Guidance on moving forward, whether together or apart, in the healthiest way possible
How is Discernment Therapy Different from Couples Therapy?
Although both approaches involve working with a skilled therapist, the goals and structure are quite different:
Couples Therapy
Couples therapy begins with the assumption that both partners are committed to improving and continuing the relationship. The focus is on identifying patterns, improving communication, rebuilding trust, and developing new ways of relating that strengthen the bond. It is a longer-term process, where progress builds gradually as the couple works together on shared goals.
Discernment Therapy
Discernment Therapy, on the other hand, is designed for couples who are not yet on the same page about the future of their relationship. It recognises when one partner may be unsure or considering leaving (“leaning out”), while the other is hoping to repair the relationship (“leaning in”). In this situation, couples therapy can feel frustrating or premature, because the commitment to work together isn’t yet shared.
Discernment Therapy offers a short-term, structured process (usually 1–5 sessions) to help both partners:
- Gain clarity about the state of the relationship
- Understand the contributions each partner has made to its difficulties
- Decide whether to pursue couples therapy, separate, or take more time before deciding
FAQ: Discernment Therapy
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How many sessions does Discernment Therapy take?
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Discernment Therapy is designed as a short-term process, usually lasting between 1–5 sessions. The exact number depends on your situation and how much clarity you both reach.
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What happens in the first Discernment Therapy session?
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Is the goal to save our relationship?
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What if one of us already feels certain about leaving?
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What if we decide to stay together?
Our Locations
Our Therapy Rooms are near:
Mayfair – Soho – Harley Street – Covent Garden
Our Therapy Fees
Accepted Insurance Providers
Not Accepted Insurance Providers
Bupa UK, AXA, Healix, Vitality and Freedom
Professional Accreditations and Associations
Our hand-selected therapists have trained in the UK’s most respected institutions. They hold a minimum of 8 and up to 30 years clinical experience within the NHS, private and/or charitable sectors. They are registered with:
