Perfectionism Therapy

Are you tired of feeling exhausted or overwhelmed by perfectionist tendencies?

KlearMinds therapy for perfectionism can help. Our therapists use a powerful combination of integrative psychotherapy and coaching to help you turn around things around positively. We can help you stop perfectionism from undermining your happiness and success.

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Perfectionism Therapy London

What is Perfectionism?

Perfectionists are never happy with what they achieve, they can always do better and will often experience feelings of failure as the goals they set can be unrealistic and many times, impossible to reach. Some characteristics of perfectionists are:

  • Viewing mistakes as failures
  • Holding high, unrealistic goals
  • Spending excessive amounts of time planning or redoing work in an attempt to make it perfect
  • Being risk adverse unless “success” is guaranteed
  • Feedback or criticism is feared
  • Can find it difficult to adapt if plans do not go the way they planned.
  • Feel like you fail at everything you try.
  • Procrastinate regularly — you might resist starting a task because you’re afraid that you’ll be unable to complete it perfectly.
  • Struggle to relax and share your thoughts and feelings.

How can Therapy for Perfectionism Help?

Using a unique blend of CBT, therapy and coaching our therapists can show you simple, yet highly effective ways, to understand perfectionism and stop the pain it causes in your life. In therapy sessions you will have the opportunity to:

  • Recognise Perfectionism – there is nothing wrong with having high standards, but if these standards are too high, they can get in the way of your work, relationships, and life.
  • Understand the factors that cause your perfectionism
  • Discover how to recognise physiological symptoms of stress and anxiety that often accompany perfectionistic thinking
  • Explore alternatives strategies to replace perfectionism
  • Realistic Thinking – replace self-critical or perfectionistic thoughts with more realistic statements.  For example, “nobody is perfect”, “all I can do is my best”, “making a mistake is not catastrophic, its human”.
  • Look at the big picture – perfectionists tend to get bogged down in details and worry a great deal about the small or little things.
  • Set realistic standards – although I would like to be employee of the year, is that reasonable in my first year?

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Am I a Perfectionist?

For some, perfectionism is positive.  They use their drive and goals to strive for the life they want.  They can push for perfection, without a loss of self-esteem and they also feel pleased about the effort and commitment they make.

For others, the impacts of perfectionism can be negative. They rarely feel satisfied or secure about what they’ve done, frequently being critical of themselves and others, who continue to fall short of perfectionist standards.

The origins or causes of perfectionism are less clear.  It could be caused by a fear of judgement, or a way of avoiding any disapproval from others.  Early childhood experiences, such as having parents who communicate unrealistic expectations, could play a role.  If you  believe that your self-worth is based on achievements, perfectionism may find fertile ground to develop.

So, while most would consider having high standards and striving for excellence a good thing, as this enables some of our elite sports people to train long and hard to reach excellence. Perfectionism can involve setting impossible standards and that anything short of perfection is terrible, some believing that minor imperfections are catastrophic.  Can you imagine going through life believing that you should never make a mistake?

So when perfectionism is operating you might feel:-

  • Anxious about many of the things you try.
  • Procrastinate, because the finished product is likely to be imperfect.
  • Low Mood – as you seem unable to achieve the goals you set yourself.
  • Isolated or Lonely – as you avoid people who can seem to reinforce your deficiencies.

Of course, producing high quality work, with laser like focus and attention to detail is exciting.   But when the consequences of imperfection are small, or we need to deliver something quickly which is “good enough”, then perfectionist tendencies can be less than helpful and sometimes harmful.

Therefore, it may be worthwhile considering the standards you use, and how you judge yourself.  Would it help to loosen these standards and ease the stress and anxiety of trying so hard to be perfect? Or does even the thought of loosening your standards elicit fear and anxiety?

Take the first step towards Overcoming Perfectionism

If you have had enough of feeling stressed and held back by perfectionism. If you feel ready to change things so you can enjoy the life you really want. KlearMinds Perfectionism Therapy in London can help you. Why wait? Contact us today.

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Paul Glynn - Psychotherapist & Counsellor London

Paul Glynn

Clinical Director, Psychotherapist & Counsellor
MSc Counselling, PG Adv Cert CBT, Adv Cert Clinical Supervision, BPhil, MBACP (Accred)

Paul Glynn holds over 35 years experience.

Kate Thomlinson - Psychotherapist & Counsellor London

Kate Thomlinson

Psychotherapist & Counsellor
MA Counselling & Psychotherapy, Adv Dip, UKCP, SEA, CEC

Kate is a highly skilled therapist with over 10 years experience.

Amanda James

Psychotherapist & Counsellor
Dip Therapeutic Counselling, PG Dip Attachment Theory, Mindfulness, Adv Dip, BACP

Amanda holds over 12 years experience.

Maggie Morrow Award Winning Therapist

Maggie Morrow

Award Winning Psychotherapist, Counsellor & Life Coach
MSc Integrative Psychotherapy, BSc Psychology, Adv Dip, UKCP

Maggie’s experience spans over 25 years.

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