To preserve confidentiality we do not use people’s names. Some people have signed off their testimonial with their “life role” so you can see what sort of people find our service helpful.
Overcoming Anxiety & Depression – Improving Career and Relationship
After a number of false starts with therapists, I can only say that I wish I had found Maggie sooner! Over a period of 15 years I had seen multiple therapists and psychiatrists to address issues relating to anxiety, depression and workplace stress. With invariably unsatisfying results, I was extremely skeptical about seeing another therapist: more fundamentally I was utterly pessimistic about the possibility of being happy. My skepticism proved unfounded.
Maggie really helped me to elucidate and articulate the origins of deeply embedded patterns of negative and self defeating thinking, which proved essential in enabling her to then work with me to develop practical strategies for loosening their grip. She is patient and compassionate while being proactive and constructively challenging when she needs to be. I found this combination of empathy and robust testing of my negative perceptions immensely helpful.
The process resulted in my feeling much better at work, building up the confidence to successfully apply for a new job (which would have been unimaginable before I started therapy) and to take important strides forward in my relationship.
Whether you are considering therapy for the first time or feeling like therapy is a dead end, I believe you have nothing to lose and plenty gain by seeking out an introductory session with Maggie.
Dan, Civil servant
Overcoming Relationship Problems – Building Self-confidence
‘I cannot recommend Maggie enough. I had tried counselling before and thought it wasn’t for me. I now realise that finding the right counsellor makes all the difference.
I went to see Maggie when I felt I was no longer able to cope and everything in my life was going wrong. I couldn’t understand why. Maggie was very incisive in identifying the issues. My sessions with her have not only helped me gain an understanding of my habits and patterns but also given me the tools to break the bad habits and understand what is important. As a result I feel in control, grounded and confident in all parts of my life and most importantly, I feel capable of moving forward in my life. My only regret is that I hadn’t found Maggie sooner.
A very grateful Lawyer! Learn more about: Self-Esteem counselling
Overcoming Depression – Building Self-confidence
The review shows how a client uses our review request guidelines to feedback on his experience of working with his therapist Belinda Wilson:
“It was a fascinating journey and I learnt a lot about myself, lessons I will hold on to going forward. It is a massive relief for me to get to a clear headspace. Your insights were very reassuring to me.
Here is my feedback:
What problem(s) brought you to see me:
I was feeling depressed and stuck in a mental maze of negative thoughts.
How you found the experience of therapy itself and working with me:
I was a little bit sceptical having had some less than helpful psychologists in the past, however this was much different, I felt like your insights were non-judgemental but really cut to the core of what my issues were.
What you’ve learnt / improvements therapy has made for you in your life:
You helped me to identify my personal needs and to respect myself more than I had been. You also facilitated the space for me to come to these realisations and to really believe them myself. It has also been helpful to have some strategies to combat future mental issues.
Thanks again Belinda for all your help, it has been very helpful to me.
MK, East London. Learn more about: Self-Esteem counselling
Making Decisions & Building Self-Confidence
“I contacted KlearMinds after a particularly frustrating period of self-doubt and indecision in my life. I had never visited a counsellor before, so I was very nervous about what to expect from the session, myself, and the person in this helping role. However, I felt an immediate rapport with Daniela, who allowed me to talk openly about my frustrations at a pace that felt comfortable to me. She was very skilled at helping me establish some context to these thought patterns, and allowed me to indicate when and where I was happy to start and continue themes each week.
Daniela was very empathetic, professional and flexible regarding how we approached the critical emotions that lay underneath everything I was saying. In a short time I felt much better at identifying some of the broad themes that were causing me to feel trapped or unsure of my future decisions, with clear considerations for times when anxiety arose in-between sessions. Seeking counselling at the time that I did was the best thing I have done, and I can say, wholeheartedly, that I haven’t felt this clear and aligned to a recognisable version of a happier me for a very long time. I would recommend KlearMinds counsellors to anyone. Thank you Daniela.
Brand Agency DirectorLearn more about: Self-Confidence counselling
Improving Relationships & Building Self-Confidence
Hope all is well with you and thankyou once again for everything you did for me, I can’t really put into words how much you helped me (although I’ll try right now!).
I came to Maggie after experiencing problems in my relationships. I seemed to follow the same patterns, and couldn’t identify what the problems were, how to stop repeating myself, break these patterns and make changes for the better. After experiencing several years of the same thing, and seeing no alternative, I made an active decision to do something about it.
Although I was nervous at first, Maggie really seemed to understand the root of the problem, and where everything seemed to stem from and helped me make steps to break free of the problematic routines of my relationships.
I now have the confidence to make changes, and assess situations with an open mind, and walk away from things if it isn’t right, where I would never have had the strength to be able to do so before.
Overcoming an affair – Re-building Marriage & Family Life
I came to see Maggie when I was struggling to make sense of my life and maintain control, I was in the middle of having an affair and thinking about leaving my wife and child and had lost a great deal of trust in my emotions and feelings. I truly felt my life was falling apart and had stopped making any sense.
Maggie worked slowly with me to assess what was truly making me happy, steps to cope with everyday life whilst I explored bigger issues and slowly but surely led me to a much deeper understanding of myself.
My relationship with my wife has vastly improved. We are able to communicate more openly and can now provide each other with space, companionship and appropriate support when needed. I have regained my enjoyment in our journey of building a life and family together.
I am now happier than I have ever been and feel more confident to move forward with my life with much stronger ability to cope with anything life throws at me in the future.
I’ll never be able to thank you enough.
Investment Analyst Learn more about: Relationship Counselling
Overcoming Anxiety – Building Self Confidence
Feelings of extreme anxiety and a lack of confidence that had developed over a period of about 10 years brought me to see Daniella. Although to be honest, I wasn’t really sure how she’d be able to help.
After 12 weeks, I feel like myself again. I’ve learnt to recognise my achievements and control my feelings of anxiety, which has helped me to regain my confidence and given me the motivation to try lots of new things – from a trekking trip to running my first half marathon. Things that previously filled me with panic are now a positive challenge.
I’m genuinely much happier – in both my work and personal life – and actively make plans and look forward to the future.
“Just a bit of an update from me…
Last week I successfully completed a 17 mile trek, with my first half marathon booked for early next year. Not quite sure what I’ve let myself in for!
I’ve also seen a dramatic improvement in my confidence at work and am able to take a calmer approach to solving problems. I’ve been feeling much more motivated and have received some really positive feedback on the proactive work I’ve been doing as a result.
Thanks again for all your help. It really has made such a difference.”
Account director (marketing) Learn more about: Anxiety Therapy
Overcoming Depression and Anxiety – Building Self Confidence
“Before meeting with Maggie, I had been feeling demotivated, lacking focus & very lonely. I had thought that my feelings would blow over and left myself languishing. Counselling was something I only considered when I felt there was nothing I could do. Retrospectively, this was incorrect. Maggie gave me support and provided me with the encouragement to empower myself to change.
Maggie helped me look at myself and the world around me in a different light; I now realise that I have the power and the skills to make my own future. The negative way I thought about myself and the feeling of being a ‘victim’ has gone and while I still sometimes see obstacles in my way, Maggie has given me the tools to question my negative thoughts and get to the root of the problem. Instead of thinking ‘what if’ and worrying about it, I know there will always be a ‘what if’ but it’s how you deal with it that counts.
I had always found it hard to deal with questions, getting defensive. Maggie’s questions, while difficult at the start, were in no way intimidating or intrusive. Her questions have helped me question the cause of my feelings and also question others. The sessions and tools provided have helped me organise myself, realise my limits and most importantly brought confidence and self respect back to my life. I am extremely grateful to Maggie for all she has helped me to achieve. I know that the tools she has given me will help me in the future and throughout my life. Thank you Maggie!”
Relationship Break-up – Regaining Self-Confidence
I decided to try therapy after my relationship ended. I wanted to understand why it failed (I blamed myself for it as I have thought that I was “broken”) and I wanted to understand what I was doing wrong and how to change it. I also wanted to be more open, to communicate better, to feel more confident and in control of my life and to be more optimistic about my future.
During therapy we talked about my patterns in behaviour, the way I relate to my partners, the way I think and feel and what do I tell myself in critical situations. We also talked about my childhood and how it influenced the way I am now. The first outcome of the therapy was that I stopped blaming myself for my failed relationship. I realised that I was in fact in an abusive relationship and I also understood why. This discovery has given me an enormous feeling of relief. I felt physically lighter as if a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders. Even my friends have noticed this change and were commenting that I seem more relaxed, happier and that I smile more.
Once the relationship issues have been sorted and put aside we started to talk about me, what I wanted and about my future goals. At the beginning it seemed as a daunting task as every time I tried to think about my future I ended up feeling depressed, anxious and stuck. I felt like all the good things were behind me and there was nothing there to look forward. Again we talked about my childhood. I realised that I had a limited influence over my parent’s behaviour and that in fact they had failed me, not the other way round. I stopped blaming myself for my childhood and I understood that I am not “broken” as I have thought all my life. Again this discovery has given me a huge feeling of relief.
After 3 months of therapy I feel stronger and more in control, I trust and respect myself more. I also feel happier and more optimistic about my future. I know there will be ups and downs but I feel that I can handle them. I feel that I will be OK.
I really enjoyed working with Daniella. She was genuinely concerned about my issues and committed to making a difference. Sometimes I would came to the session feeling heavy and blank, as if I had nothing to say and she was able to ask questions that led to the interesting interpretations and as a consequence I felt better; I felt motivated and inspired. She helped me to look at my childhood and at my life differently; by asking questions I have not thought of asking myself, naming the obvious but somehow forgotten; by pointing out patterns that were destructive and helping me to understand where they came from and how to change them. It was thoroughly insightful and satisfying experience.
Overcoming Trauma – Building Confidence in Work & Relationships
I didn’t have any expectations of what therapy could do for me. I went to Maggie because I knew that my lifestyle and general approach to life needed to be changed and that I needed to discuss an extremely distressing experience which had happened to me with a trained professional.
I liked Maggie’s approach, and she made me feel safe and capable of dealing with the issues which I needed and wanted to explore. Over the course of a year I learnt a lot about myself, my reactions to situations and the triggers to those reactions. In particular I started to recognise all of the things which I could change to make my life better.
I now have the tools to be able to deal with any issues and/or problems that may arise. I have made a number of changes to my life some small and some big and all of the areas of my life that I wanted to change (and even those I didn’t know at time needed changing) have changed for the better. I feel lucky to have had the opportunity to work with Maggie and the results speak for themselves.
Beating Depression – Regaining Self Confidence
“I first came to see Maggie when every area of my life seemed to be going wrong, and I felt I wanted to take control and turn things around. Maggie helped me to do that. She helped me to realise that its all about the way you react to something, and that you can change your thought processes.
I now realise that you have options, and that it is within your own power to change things around.
I am very grateful to Maggie for helping me to see things a different way, and giving me the tools to be a better, calmer, more confident version of myself. I can honestly say I now feel happy the majority of the time and if I don’t, I know how to deal with it.
Thanks again Maggie for everything!”
Overcoming Career Anxiety & Work Stress
“I had never thought I was someone who would need counselling or therapy, as I had always been very strong. However when my career wasn’t going quite as I had planned it, I found I was becoming very negative and mentally spiralling out of control – in fact turning myself into a victim.
Maggie’s structured, logical, evidence based approach to my mental state was something I could easily understand and work with. It meant that I was very quickly (in about 5 sessions) back to having control over my life and feeling so much more positive and happy about everything.
Now I realise that sometimes we need a little help. Maggie was outstanding at providing me with what I needed, not as a “quick fix” but by giving me the tools to use whenever I may need them in the future. Thank you Maggie, I am so very grateful to you”
Corporate Finance Lawyer
Should I get Married? Gaining Clarity.
“When my partner proposed and all was meant to be rosy and wonderful, I hit a complete crisis of confidence and was left wondering whether I was making the biggest mistake of my life. After much emotional confusion I decided to find someone to talk to who could provide professional and detached advice.
My time with Maggie was extremely helpful in untangling firstly what all of my conflicting feelings actually were and then getting a real understanding of what was driving them. We ended up looking at a great deal more than the just my fears about getting married and in doing so I was able to gain real clarity not only regarding my engagement but many other aspects of my life.
Without Maggie’s help I think I’d either still be floundering in unhappy confliction, or I’d have come to some very different, rash decisions I’d have had to live with ever after. Most importantly I’ve been left with excellent tools and strategies to help me handle problems that may arise in the future. Thanks Maggie!”
“When I came to see Jo I was feeling very low. I found it hard “to see the wood for the trees” as I had been feeling stressed for so long.
I found Jo very understanding and she quickly helped me to clearly identify the matters which were affecting me most. She really helped me to understand why I was feeling the way I was and what I needed to do to change the things which were impacting negatively upon my emotional well-being.
After a few sessions with Jo I felt like a different person. Jo also helped me to reflect in a more positive way upon my history and helped me to see the very positive things in my life. If I have any difficulties in the future I will not hesitate to contact her again and I would highly recommend her.”
Overcoming depression & developing lasting happiness
“I didn’t really know whether counselling would help when I first went to see Maggie. All I knew was that I was feeling increasingly isolated and unhappy, anxious about the future and fed up with the way my life was going.
All that changed over the next few months as Maggie helped me on my journey towards understanding myself and why I reacted to people and situations in the way I did. Eventually, as I began to feel reconnected to people again, I learned to value myself, be proud of my achievements and even feel excited about the future! I saw that it was possible to be alone but not be lonely, to be sad without being depressed, and discovered that many people feel afraid, they just deal with their fear in different ways.
Maggie was patient, perceptive and incredibly supportive throughout and each week I grew stronger, more empowered and liberated thanks to her skill and expertise. She has made a big difference to my life and for that I will always be grateful.”
Senior HR Manager
Discovering enjoyable career success & creating loving relationships
“When I came to see Maggie I was very depressed, but also very cynical about the benefits of seeing a therapist. I was working as a sales director for a large city firm, which I thought was what I wanted, but I had very little confidence in my abilities, and no idea why. I also had very bad relationships with my partner and family, finding it almost impossible to talk about my feelings.
Over the course of the last 10 months Maggie has helped me to understand why I was feeling and behaving as I was, and help me to turn things around so that I am now very happy with my lot in life.
At first there appeared to be little structure to our sessions and I did question why I was spending the money “just talking” to a stranger. But after a few months the pieces of the jigsaw started to fit together and a lot of things started to make sense to me.
I have now left the industry that I was in – Maggie helped me discover that I basically hated what I had been doing for the past 8 years, driven by a desire to have an “impressive” job rather than one which I enjoyed. My relationship with my partner is now fantastic, as are my relationships with my family. And I am much more comfortable talking to them about my feelings.
I am also no longer a cynic about the power of the subconscious mind and the value of spending time with a first class therapist like Maggie.
It’s not easy, and sometimes I dreaded going to our sessions, but the results are definitely worth the effort.
Maggie, thank you so much for all of your work with me this year. I really don’t know where I would be now if it hadn’t been for your help. I am so much happier now than I have been in many, many, years and am looking forward to the next stage of my life!”
Ex Sales Director
Overcoming Depression & Enjoying Better Relationships
“When I first started seeing Maggie I felt very unmotivated, lonely and exhausted. It seemed the more I tried to fix things myself, the worse they got. I sought counselling as a last resort, when I simply didn’t know what else to do.
Our sessions were hard work at first. Maggie was very good at challenging the negative way I thought about myself. But she was also a brilliant listener and our sessions were incredibly motivating. She was very good at explaining why I felt the way I did. She made me see that I wasn’t “crazy” or even unusual, which made me feel less isolated. Aside from being someone understanding to talk to, Maggie taught me through exercises to help me practice thinking about myself and my life in a more positive light.
Maggie helped me get to know myself better. She helped me identify things about life that I enjoy, and taught me to feel good about those things! She also helped me identify the things that I didn’t like, and to find the strength to get rid of them! My relationships with my friends and family have greatly improved. I have gone from tolerating life to loving it, including the bumpy bits. I cannot recommend Maggie enough. I will be forever grateful to her.”
Overcoming Relationship Problems – Building Trust & Improving Communication
This very busy, professional couple wanted to stop arguments which were occurring with increasing frequency. They were really concerned their relationship would break up. They wanted to improve their communication skills so they could trust each other and save their relationship. After 4 double sessions with Maggie, here’s what they have to say:
‘We found Maggie to be a huge help in our request for improving our communication skills. Maggie will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it is linked to so you understand you a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique, not just for you as a couple, but for you and all your relationships. She is also warm & fun which really helps!:)
We now communicate better and understand one another….invaluable & life changing.’ Many thanks again.
Couple – Business Owner & Senior Executive. Learn more about: Couples Therapy
“I found my sessions with Maggie immensely helpful. Maggie’s approach is not the least bit intimidating and immensely practical in nature. She helped me to identify the issues which cause me anxiety and to find techniques which enabled me to deal with them as they arose. I now feel I have the tools necessary to deal with the various stresses in my life and that I can adapt these tools to suit any situation I am presented with in the future.”
Building Self-Esteem – Overcoming Anxiety
“I feel so much calmer and happier in myself. Therapy really helped with my anxiety issues and restored my self esteem. I feel so much more positive about the future and feel much stronger in myself.”
Solving Relationship Problems – Anger Management
“I contacted Maggie after I felt my reactions to small irritations were getting out of hand, particularly in my relationship with my partner. I was anxious, angry and upset a lot of the time which was unlike anything I’d experienced before. I saw Maggie for a few months once a week and began to understand why I was reacting the way I was. This understanding was half the battle, and was incredibly revealing. I learned not to let my hurt feelings turn to anger and frustration, and deal with them in a different way. I feel like my old self again now, more in control of my emotions, confident and happy in my relationship. She was sympathetic, caring, open and I think genuinely happy for me to have made such progress. Highly recommended.”
Recovering from Bereavement & Depression
“I hit a period in my life when it seemed I had never felt so low. Amongst other problems, I was coping with a major bereavement and it felt like a crisis.
During this period I managed to find Maggie and sheepishly dragged myself into her office. Straight away Maggie was warm, kind and understanding – she didn’t rush anything – or if something didn’t work – we’d just move on. It felt odd to be talking about my problems and it was difficult but together we worked through them – I didn’t want to be in therapy for a long time, I just wanted to get better, get on with my life.
Over the next six weeks Maggie and myself met once a week and we’d talk, after each session I’d feel so much better, stronger and my mind began to clear. I cannot recommend Maggie highly enough to you. Whilst life still presents me with challenges I can cope with them as I feel so much stronger now – I owe her much.”
Overcoming Depression & Insecurity
“I decided to embark on therapy in order to address long-term issues with depression and insecurity in my personal life.
Maggie has enabled me to reflect more clear-sightedly on situations rather than blaming myself for everything. She is a very sympathetic person with an extraordinary skill for reading body language! She has encouraged me out of feeling stuck in a ‘coping’ strategy that was really about disguising rather than recognising and addressing my feelings. As a consequence I am a more emotionally robust and confident and feel better able to exercise judgement and integrity in my relationships with others.”
Overcoming Depression – Building Self Confidence
I came to see Daniella when I was absolutely convinced that I was never going to feel happy again. I broke down in tears every day and felt overwhelmed by small setbacks. As clichéd as it sounds, at that time for me, there was no light at the end of the tunnel and I had sought help to try and find a way to reconcile myself with the fact I would be miserable for the rest of my life.
I had never been to see a therapist before but from the first session (when I said very little and cried a lot), I trusted Daniella and felt comfortable with her. By enabling me to accept that I had been affected by certain experiences and that it was OK that those experiences had affected me, Daniella helped me realise that I wasn’t necessarily always going to feel this way. I started therapy feeling ashamed, like I’d failed and that I should be able to cope with life on my own. Daniella made me see that it was ok to talk to a professional and took the stigma away for me. I have since told quite a few of my friends and their reaction has been nothing but positive.
I could not tell you how Daniella does what she does. All I know is that she made me feel secure enough to face things I had previously avoided by listening, pushing me when I needed it and seemingly being really invested in the journey I took with her.
As a nervous first-timer I was unsure about signing up for lots of sessions but Daniella suggested I do 3 week blocks and then review. I ended up doing 12 sessions in all and I left feeling calmer, more hopeful and happier. I couldn’t ask for more than that.
Overcoming Anxiety & Building Self-Confidence
This Financial Analyst and working mother had to deal with redundancy, a difficult new job, relationship challenges, child rearing and her own history of being unsupported and bullied in the past. Here’s what she says:
“I started to see Maggie for ways to help me deal with old patterns of thoughts which lead to increased levels of stress and low confidence. She really helped me understand the roots of my thinking, how things had changed through time and ways in which I could shape my thoughts differently and break free of my old patterns. As a result, my stress levels have vastly improved and I have a very different outlook on life. I have also been able to break away from old patterns of thoughts which has been very positive in helping me deal with new situations. Maggie has a great ability to be empathetic. She is a great listener and can tailor therapy sessions to your needs and how you can best work through your sessions.”
Gaining clarity out of confusion
“For a complete novice with some trepidation about the entire process, I entered not knowing what to expect. However Vybra provided a welcoming and engaging space, to slowly start to unravel my thoughts. Offering prompts when needed, a gentle push when necessary and advice when asked, I found it a thoroughly beneficial exercise and one I would definitely recommend.”
Making sense of Problems
“I found Vybra really easy to talk to. I was nervous about therapy/counselling but she had a very relaxed approach and I felt comfortable quickly. Even if you find it hard to talk, I think these counselling sessions are worthwhile as it is like putting together a jigsaw puzzle which has got all messed up.”
Making sense out of confusion
”They say that an unexamined life is a life not worth living. I have to say that I am not in complete agreement with this dictum.
However, what I do know with absolute certainty is that there are certain complex areas of everyone’s life that do merit/require examination and that this process is best carried out with the help of an expert ‘facilitator’.
Having talked to Vybra Morris on and off for almost five years now I can objectively state that Vybra is perfect for this role because she is reliable, trustworthy, intuitive and perceptive.”
Ex Director of ________ – Saatchi & Saatchi’
Building Self-confidence & Assertiveness
This is a testimonial from a young woman who wanted to develop her confidence and assertiveness and through our work effectively tackled some difficult family and personal relationships.
“I decided to book a course of counselling as a 30th birthday present to myself. I was aware of wanting to have a bit more confidence and be more assertive and of having a couple of unresolved issues which I would benefit from working though. I picked Maggie after looking at the websites of several therapists in my area and deciding that her working style would suit me best. We had about 10 sessions together and I found them hugely beneficial. I think you get the most out of counselling if you are prepared to put in some ‘homework’ yourself between the sessions. Maggie did a great job of supporting me as I worked through various issues, I felt very comfortable around her and she offered lots of insights each week. I would very much recommend anyone to work with her.”