Confidence Coaching Therapy London

I was in a toxic relationship while suffering from PTSD, which made it harder for me to keep the symptoms under control, to the point I found myself unable to cope with daily responsibilities at work and at home. When I went to Maggie for help, I desperately needed for someone to pull me out of the black hole I had found myself in. One step at a time, we went through my background and through all the experiences that (some of which I hadn’t realized) had brought me to the point I was at. Maggie helped me regain control of my life by coming to terms with the past, forgiving myself and others, and letting go of all the destructive thoughts in my head. Maggie helped me overcome PTSD, reconnect with myself and others, overcome my sense of helplessness, appreciate myself more and gain strength and confidence to walk away from the toxic relationship I was in. Overall, Maggie turned my life around and I will be forever grateful for all of her help.

This is a testimonial from a young woman who wanted to develop her confidence and assertiveness and through our work effectively tackled some difficult family and personal relationships.

I decided to book a course of counselling as a 30th birthday present to myself. I was aware of wanting to have a bit more confidence and be more assertive and of having a couple of unresolved issues which I would benefit from working though. I picked Maggie after looking at the websites of several therapists in my area and deciding that her working style would suit me best. We had about 10 sessions together and I found them hugely beneficial. I think you get the most out of counselling if you are prepared to put in some ‘homework’ yourself between the sessions. Maggie did a great job of supporting me as I worked through various issues, I felt very comfortable around her and she offered lots of insights each week. I would very much recommend anyone to work with her.

Carmen was amazing. I’m incredibly grateful for all of the work she has done with me. When I first came to her, I was feeling very overwhelmed and anxious but she made me feel completely safe and understood from the start. Her warmth, insight, and guidance helped me find confidence and calm in many situations I’ve been faced with since beginning with her. Working with her has been transformative and I couldn’t thank her enough.

I came to Judy when I found myself with increasing anxiety, problems with sleeping and lack of appetite. I felt like my head was a muddle of negative thoughts and while this hadn’t been triggered by one particular event, I knew that it was being antagonised by workplace stress and conflict, as well as a lifelong lack of self-confidence. I immediately connected with Judy who listened patiently. I knew I wanted to understand why I think like this, but ultimately I wanted to move forward with practical techniques to help me cope better. Judy helped me firstly understand my anxiety, she also made me realise that I wasn’t alone in the way I think. We recognised my triggers and my responses to situations, but also talked through some previous experiences which had shaped my mindset. We developed techniques to help me cope better, rebuilt my confidence and I can honestly say I have felt like a different person ever since. If like me, you are reading these reviews and recognise your own thoughts and feelings, go ahead and start a course of therapy, I couldn’t recommend Judy more highly.

Me and the people around me in my life were of the opinion that therapy was a waste of money and that many of the regular intense feelings that I had every day (anger, doubt in myself, my choices and my relationships) and the overthinking/analysis that I performed in order to help “figure these things out” were just “part of the parcel of life” and that I should just calm down and get on with it.

Knowing therapy was always an option, I took the hard approach for over 10 years. My views were “I’m a mentally strong man and I will battle this every day and NEVER break like others around me” “I won’t show a chink in my armour or any sign of weakness in a million years” “I will outlast a weak minded society and continue being successful in life and on a pathway that I decide is best for me” “the world is wrong – the news, social media (professional and social) reports are jumping on the bandwagon and giving in to the “snowflake generation” by constantly mollycoddling society and simply ticking a box with their focus on mental health”

I thought that all I needed were close family and friends to talk to about what I was going through and that this would be enough to reassure myself that I was fine and that I was on the right path regardless. Whilst this approach was very helpful and probably a major reason why I didn’t end up in a terrible state, this only provided relief for short periods and I was always back to square one again very quickly. After all i was someone who often doubted myself and others.

Everything came on top at one particular point and fortunately I was able to recognise this along with the people who were close to me (through my openness with them they were able to spot this too). There was no “major event” that triggered this however I concluded that I had to take action if I was to prevent an entire lifetime fighting a constant and unsustainable mental battle every day.

I thoroughly researched therapists and decided that Judy was the most qualified person to help me. The descriptions / biographies on Klearminds allowed me to do this a lot easier than other websites and if you are reluctant to try therapy this process can be off putting but I urge you to persist.

I didn’t expect it but the first session was life altering in itself. This was simply the “getting to know the you” stage but saying the words out loud to Judy provided an overwhelming sense of release and resulted in a surprisingly emotional first session. This was the start of what was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

It’s now 1 month after I have completed therapy and I couldn’t recommend Judy more highly. The key points/takeaways for me were:

We set clear goals and achieved them which disproved my thoughts that therapy was a waste of money/I’d be strung along forever making marginal or temporary improvements.

You have to be completely honest so that Judy can help you (there is never judgement, just help)

I have a greater understanding of myself and my brain than ever before

In order to get the most out of these sessions you must be prepared to apply what you learn in real life.

The techniques and clarity that I have gained have ended the constant mental battle for all of the issues that I felt I had.

Be kind to yourself (for real)

I fell ill in the 1980s as a teenager with what we now know as chronic fatigue syndrome. At the time, however, this condition was poorly understood by the medical profession, so I didn’t have a diagnosis. This was a very traumatic period for me, exacerbated by the distressing treatment I received from my doctor and the educational psychologists. They wrongly attributed my illness to anxiety and claimed I was simply avoiding school, placing the blame squarely on me.

Fast forward nearly 40 years, and life has been incredibly challenging. My illness prevented me from completing my education or working. Having lost faith in the medical profession, it was only after experiencing extreme depression and anxiety following topical steroid withdrawal that I felt compelled to consult psychiatrists.

Thankfully, the medical understanding of chronic fatigue syndrome seems to have progressed. I found an excellent psychiatrist who recommended psychotherapy. I was initially hesitant about more therapy, as my previous experience with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) on the NHS, while somewhat helpful, hadn’t addressed the underlying causes of my problems.

Searching online, KlearMinds was the first result for chronic fatigue syndrome therapists. I was assigned Judy Harrison as my therapist, and we began weekly Zoom sessions, gradually building a strong therapeutic relationship. She possessed a deep understanding of the somatic aspects of the nervous system and how to work with these to alleviate anxiety.After a few sessions, Judy recognized that Internal Family Systems (IFS), often called parts therapy would be particularly beneficial for me. We engaged in sessions where I dialogued with my traumatized parts; which helped to strengthen my adult self and develop self-leadership.

This process was incredibly powerful, and I noticed significant positive changes in my relationship with anxiety. I am now able to guide myself out of anxious states by communicating with my different parts and making more conscious decisions.

Recently, my spiritual teacher invited my wife and me on a trip to India. Initially, I declined due to my health concerns. However, within 24 hours, I decided to seize this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. I hadn’t traveled or been on holiday for 22 years. With three months to prepare, Judy continued to support me with weekly sessions, helping me to overcome any mental obstacles.

My trip to India was a great success, and I am deeply grateful to Judy for her invaluable support in helping me reclaim my life. For my final session with Judy, I traveled into central London by train and also enjoyed a five-hour outing in the city – something completely unthinkable just a year prior.

When I started working with Judy I was having a difficult time both at work and in my personal life. There were a number of issues I was facing specifically around relationships with people in my life and my confidence. Working with Judy helped me to understand these relationships and importantly how to change them for the better.

Judy gave me invaluable help and advice, and shared a number of tools that will always stay with me and help me deal with difficult situations in the future. I am now in such a good place and feel confident to be able to deal with the pressures of life on my own. Judy was so supportive and non-judgmental, I know I would ever have been able to achieve any of these changes without her help. Thank you much.

Paul’s background working with academics and university mental health services, and continued work in such fields often provided helpful comforts of the experiences I was going through and made me feel that I was not alone. Working with Paul was a pleasure and though by the end we were, from my perspective, working on very different topics than what we started on Paul as always was able to show how things were connected when applicable and demonstrate the progress I was showing, holding that often necessary mirror up to my face so I could see where I was. I always felt listened to, and could tell that previous conversations and small notes made throughout almost 2 years were remembered, making me feel that I had a dedicated therapist while I was in the session and not one who’s attention was elsewhere.

Jess is absolutely fantastic. She supported me throughout my rather tough times. I honestly don’t know how I would’ve pulled through without her. She is very easy to open up to and she understands in depth what I’m going through. I’ve always looked forward to our sessions. She went above and beyond to help me feel secure and reassured me during times I needed it. Thank you so much Jess!!

Hope all is well with you and thank you once again for everything you did for me, I can’t really put into words how much you helped me (although I’ll try right now!).

I came to Maggie after experiencing problems in my relationships. I seemed to follow the same patterns, and couldn’t identify what the problems were, how to stop repeating myself, break these patterns and make changes for the better. After experiencing several years of the same thing, and seeing no alternative, I made an active decision to do something about it.

Although I was nervous at first, Maggie really seemed to understand the root of the problem, and where everything seemed to stem from and helped me make steps to break free of the problematic routines of my relationships.

I now have the confidence to make changes, and assess situations with an open mind, and walk away from things if it isn’t right, where I would never have had the strength to be able to do so before.

I have been in therapy with Klearminds the past 3.5 years and it was an absolute delight working with Mita, one may say truly a life changing experience. Throughout my journey with Mita I have gained a self confidence that I never knew was possible for me, which has positively affected my career, my relationships as well as my long forgotten personal passions that I finally came in touch with again. I very much enjoyed every single therapy session with Mita, each time it brought me a little closer to being my true self and gaining trust in who I am – something that I have been struggling with for a very long time. Mita’s kind, respectful and reflective approach made this process very enjoyable, and I would highly recommend sessions with her to literally anyone who is longing for an improvement in life quality – for me it was one of the best investments I have made. Thank you Klearminds for everything!

Carmen has deep empathy for her clients, actively listening to you and truly understanding what you said and unsaid. She creates a space for you to be vulnerable without being judged, develops a safe and trusting relationship to allow you sharing worries, thoughts and feelings. She understands your needs and support you through personal challenges.

Throughout the journey, you will be able to be aware of what you have been neglected and explore a new way to process things from another perspective. Personally, Carmen helped me to realize the importance of having self-love, guided me to set the healthy boundaries and for once in my life I am truly looking after myself gently.

I came to Maggie not at a point of crisis but at a time when I felt I needed to take stock of where I was in life and to understand and change negative patterns of behaviour after years of struggling with issues related to a traumatic event earlier in life.

I’m so glad I did. Maggie helped me investigate earlier life experiences and dissect the way my life choices and decisions had been affected by them. This allowed me to realise why I had been repeatedly making unhelpful life decisions and not moving forward in the way I wished to.

After a period of working with Maggie I genuinely felt a huge shift take place. I now look at and experience situations, relationships and emotions from a different perspective and feel emboldened to move forward with more confidence and positivity. It’s been a personal revelation for which I’ll always be grateful.