CBT Therapy for Relationships in London

I came to Jess to discuss a relationship issue. Jess was incredibly sensitive and insightful, helping me to gain objectivity and self-understanding, not only in relation to the issue at hand but other areas of my life. She was also very helpful in suggesting practical ways forward, and careful to tailor these to the situation at hand.

Carmen was a calming influence who helped me to open up on a lot of feelings and thoughts that I had not been able to vocalise freely. She listened and asked questions that led me to a realisation of why I had these and how to manage my reactions more positively. Carmen recommended some great reading material during and after sessions and made the experience much easier throughout. I would highly recommend Klearminds and Carmen to anyone looking for a high calibre, conscientious and knowledgeable therapist.

This Financial Analyst and working mother had to deal with redundancy, a difficult new job, relationship challenges, child rearing and her own history of being unsupported and bullied in the past. Here’s what she says:

I started to see Maggie for ways to help me deal with old patterns of thoughts which lead to increased levels of stress and low confidence. She really helped me understand the roots of my thinking, how things had changed through time and ways in which I could shape my thoughts differently and break free of my old patterns. As a result, my stress levels have vastly improved and I have a very different outlook on life. I have also been able to break away from old patterns of thoughts which has been very positive in helping me deal with new situations. Maggie has a great ability to be empathetic. She is a great listener and can tailor therapy sessions to your needs and how you can best work through your sessions.

Working with Judy has been one of the most valuable experiences of my life.She helped me navigate several incredibly difficult periods with empathy, clarity, and practical tools that I continue to use daily. I always felt heard, never judged, and supported in a way that allowed me to make real, lasting changes. Her approach is both warm and insightful, and she has a real gift for helping you understand what’s holding you back—and how to move forward practically. I’m very grateful for our time together and wouldn’t hesitate to recommend her to anyone looking for real support and transformation.

This very busy, professional couple wanted to stop arguments which were occurring with increasing frequency. They were really concerned their relationship would break up. They wanted to improve their communication skills so they could trust each other and save their relationship. After 4 double sessions with Maggie, here’s what they have to say:

We found Maggie to be a huge help in our request for improving our communication skills. Maggie will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it is linked to so you understand you a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique, not just for you as a couple, but for you and all your relationships. She is also warm and fun which really helps!:)

We now communicate better and understand one another… invaluable and life changing. Many thanks again.

Firstly, [Maggie] many thanks for your help and support during a difficult time for me. It was incredibly valuable and I felt like significant progress was made, quickly. I’m pleased to report my new relationship is going well, and as is work.

Maggie proved to be excellent not just as a therapist but also in career guidance. The key value for me was in overcoming childhood traumas stemming from losing my father when I was a child and despite having spent collectively over a year with therapists beforehand, the breakthroughs that we achieved there were remarkable. But she also helped support me getting a pay rise!

When I came to see Maggie I was very depressed, but also very cynical about the benefits of seeing a therapist. I was working as a sales director for a large city firm, which I thought was what I wanted, but I had very little confidence in my abilities, and no idea why. I also had very bad relationships with my partner and family, finding it almost impossible to talk about my feelings. Over the course of the last 10 months Maggie has helped me to understand why I was feeling and behaving as I was, and help me to turn things around so that I am now very happy with my lot in life.

At first there appeared to be little structure to our sessions and I did question why I was spending the money “just talking” to a stranger. But after a few months the pieces of the jigsaw started to fit together and a lot of things started to make sense to me.

I have now left the industry that I was in – Maggie helped me discover that I basically hated what I had been doing for the past 8 years, driven by a desire to have an “impressive” job rather than one which I enjoyed. My relationship with my partner is now fantastic, as are my relationships with my family. And I am much more comfortable talking to them about my feelings. I am also no longer a cynic about the power of the subconscious mind and the value of spending time with a first class therapist like Maggie. It’s not easy, and sometimes I dreaded going to our sessions, but the results are definitely worth the effort.

Maggie, thank you so much for all of your work with me this year. I really don’t know where I would be now if it hadn’t been for your help. I am so much happier now than I have been in many, many, years and am looking forward to the next stage of my life!

Jess is absolutely fantastic. She supported me throughout my rather tough times. I honestly don’t know how I would’ve pulled through without her. She is very easy to open up to and she understands in depth what I’m going through. I’ve always looked forward to our sessions. She went above and beyond to help me feel secure and reassured me during times I needed it. Thank you so much Jess!!

I started to see Maggie as a work coach at a time when I was frustrated with my job and felt like I was working myself into the ground, but not getting any returns. She gave me invaluable advice that made me think about my needs and my worth. Her support made me realise I wasn’t failing, which was an issue for me. Within weeks, I’d left my job. My new confidence meant that, when I was offered a new job, I was able to ask for the role and salary I wanted without feeling like an imposter or that I didn’t deserve it. I’m now in a job I love, and have just been promoted!

My therapy was supposed to just be about work, but Maggie delved into my past and roots and made me see why I was struggling in relationships too. Just like work, I was aiming to please people and feeling like a failure when I couldn’t fix everything. I’m now much more confident and comfortable with who I am, and I understand my feelings more. I’ve been in a great relationship for almost two years now.

The science approach from Maggie appealed to me as I’m not really into the ‘how do you feel about that’ approach constantly. Maggie challenged me, was blunt with me, tested me, but also listened to me and never forgot a previous conversation. I’ve recommended her to numerous friends since and I know she’s helped them massively too.

When I first started seeing Maggie I felt very unmotivated, lonely and exhausted. It seemed the more I tried to fix things myself, the worse they got. I sought counselling as a last resort, when I simply didn’t know what else to do.

Our sessions were hard work at first. Maggie was very good at challenging the negative way I thought about myself. But she was also a brilliant listener and our sessions were incredibly motivating. She was very good at explaining why I felt the way I did. She made me see that I wasn’t “crazy” or even unusual, which made me feel less isolated. Aside from being someone understanding to talk to, Maggie taught me through exercises to help me practice thinking about myself and my life in a more positive light.

Maggie helped me get to know myself better. She helped me identify things about life that I enjoy, and taught me to feel good about those things! She also helped me identify the things that I didn’t like, and to find the strength to get rid of them! My relationships with my friends and family have greatly improved. I have gone from tolerating life to loving it, including the bumpy bits. I cannot recommend Maggie enough. I will be forever grateful to her.

Carmen has deep empathy for her clients, actively listening to you and truly understanding what you said and unsaid. She creates a space for you to be vulnerable without being judged, develops a safe and trusting relationship to allow you sharing worries, thoughts and feelings. She understands your needs and support you through personal challenges.

Throughout the journey, you will be able to be aware of what you have been neglected and explore a new way to process things from another perspective. Personally, Carmen helped me to realize the importance of having self-love, guided me to set the healthy boundaries and for once in my life I am truly looking after myself gently.

Me and the people around me in my life were of the opinion that therapy was a waste of money and that many of the regular intense feelings that I had every day (anger, doubt in myself, my choices and my relationships) and the overthinking/analysis that I performed in order to help “figure these things out” were just “part of the parcel of life” and that I should just calm down and get on with it.

Knowing therapy was always an option, I took the hard approach for over 10 years. My views were “I’m a mentally strong man and I will battle this every day and NEVER break like others around me” “I won’t show a chink in my armour or any sign of weakness in a million years” “I will outlast a weak minded society and continue being successful in life and on a pathway that I decide is best for me” “the world is wrong – the news, social media (professional and social) reports are jumping on the bandwagon and giving in to the “snowflake generation” by constantly mollycoddling society and simply ticking a box with their focus on mental health”

I thought that all I needed were close family and friends to talk to about what I was going through and that this would be enough to reassure myself that I was fine and that I was on the right path regardless. Whilst this approach was very helpful and probably a major reason why I didn’t end up in a terrible state, this only provided relief for short periods and I was always back to square one again very quickly. After all i was someone who often doubted myself and others.

Everything came on top at one particular point and fortunately I was able to recognise this along with the people who were close to me (through my openness with them they were able to spot this too). There was no “major event” that triggered this however I concluded that I had to take action if I was to prevent an entire lifetime fighting a constant and unsustainable mental battle every day.

I thoroughly researched therapists and decided that Judy was the most qualified person to help me. The descriptions / biographies on Klearminds allowed me to do this a lot easier than other websites and if you are reluctant to try therapy this process can be off putting but I urge you to persist.

I didn’t expect it but the first session was life altering in itself. This was simply the “getting to know the you” stage but saying the words out loud to Judy provided an overwhelming sense of release and resulted in a surprisingly emotional first session. This was the start of what was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

It’s now 1 month after I have completed therapy and I couldn’t recommend Judy more highly. The key points/takeaways for me were:

We set clear goals and achieved them which disproved my thoughts that therapy was a waste of money/I’d be strung along forever making marginal or temporary improvements.

You have to be completely honest so that Judy can help you (there is never judgement, just help)

I have a greater understanding of myself and my brain than ever before

In order to get the most out of these sessions you must be prepared to apply what you learn in real life.

The techniques and clarity that I have gained have ended the constant mental battle for all of the issues that I felt I had.

Be kind to yourself (for real)

Jess was a tremendous help to me during a very difficult period. I’d never felt the need for therapy in the past, so wasn’t sure what to expect, but Jess helped me to understand my feelings, and provided excellent techniques to recognise when I was beginning to feel overwhelmed, how to rationalise my thoughts, and how to prevent negative feelings from spiralling. These techniques quickly helped me return to feelings of normality,and be better equipped for any potential future struggles.