Relationship Break-up – Regaining Self-Confidence
During therapy we talked about my patterns in behaviour, the way I relate to my partners, the way I think and feel and what do I tell myself in critical situations. We also talked about my childhood and how it influenced the way I am now. The first outcome of the therapy was that I stopped blaming myself for my failed relationship. I realised that I was in fact in an abusive relationship and I also understood why. This discovery has given me an enormous feeling of relief. I felt physically lighter as if a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders. Even my friends have noticed this change and were commenting that I seem more relaxed, happier and that I smile more.
Once the relationship issues have been sorted and put aside we started to talk about me, what I wanted and about my future goals. At the beginning it seemed as a daunting task as every time I tried to think about my future I ended up feeling depressed, anxious and stuck. I felt like all the good things were behind me and there was nothing there to look forward. Again we talked about my childhood. I realised that I had a limited influence over my parent’s behaviour and that in fact they had failed me, not the other way round. I stopped blaming myself for my childhood and I understood that I am not “broken” as I have thought all my life. Again this discovery has given me a huge feeling of relief.
After 3 months of therapy I feel stronger and more in control, I trust and respect myself more. I also feel happier and more optimistic about my future. I know there will be ups and downs but I feel that I can handle them. I feel that I will be OK.
I really enjoyed working with Daniella. She was genuinely concerned about my issues and committed to making a difference. Sometimes I would came to the session feeling heavy and blank, as if I had nothing to say and she was able to ask questions that led to the interesting interpretations and as a consequence I felt better; I felt motivated and inspired. She helped me to look at my childhood and at my life differently; by asking questions I have not thought of asking myself, naming the obvious but somehow forgotten; by pointing out patterns that were destructive and helping me to understand where they came from and how to change them. It was thoroughly insightful and satisfying experience.
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