Therapy Reviews for Relationship Counselling

After a number of false starts with therapists, I can only say that I wish I had found Maggie sooner! Over a period of 15 years I had seen multiple therapists and psychiatrists to address issues relating to anxiety, depression and workplace stress. With invariably unsatisfying results, I was extremely skeptical about seeing another therapist: more fundamentally I was utterly pessimistic about the possibility of being happy. My skepticism proved unfounded.

Maggie really helped me to elucidate and articulate the origins of deeply embedded patterns of negative and self defeating thinking, which proved essential in enabling her to then work with me to develop practical strategies for loosening their grip. She is patient and compassionate while being proactive and constructively challenging when she needs to be. I found this combination of empathy and robust testing of my negative perceptions immensely helpful.

The process resulted in my feeling much better at work, building up the confidence to successfully apply for a new job (which would have been unimaginable before I started therapy) and to take important strides forward in my relationship.

Whether you are considering therapy for the first time or feeling like therapy is a dead end, I believe you have nothing to lose and plenty gain by seeking out an introductory session with Maggie.

Me and the people around me in my life were of the opinion that therapy was a waste of money and that many of the regular intense feelings that I had every day (anger, doubt in myself, my choices and my relationships) and the overthinking/analysis that I performed in order to help “figure these things out” were just “part of the parcel of life” and that I should just calm down and get on with it.

Knowing therapy was always an option, I took the hard approach for over 10 years. My views were “I’m a mentally strong man and I will battle this every day and NEVER break like others around me” “I won’t show a chink in my armour or any sign of weakness in a million years” “I will outlast a weak minded society and continue being successful in life and on a pathway that I decide is best for me” “the world is wrong – the news, social media (professional and social) reports are jumping on the bandwagon and giving in to the “snowflake generation” by constantly mollycoddling society and simply ticking a box with their focus on mental health”

I thought that all I needed were close family and friends to talk to about what I was going through and that this would be enough to reassure myself that I was fine and that I was on the right path regardless. Whilst this approach was very helpful and probably a major reason why I didn’t end up in a terrible state, this only provided relief for short periods and I was always back to square one again very quickly. After all i was someone who often doubted myself and others.

Everything came on top at one particular point and fortunately I was able to recognise this along with the people who were close to me (through my openness with them they were able to spot this too). There was no “major event” that triggered this however I concluded that I had to take action if I was to prevent an entire lifetime fighting a constant and unsustainable mental battle every day.

I thoroughly researched therapists and decided that Judy was the most qualified person to help me. The descriptions / biographies on Klearminds allowed me to do this a lot easier than other websites and if you are reluctant to try therapy this process can be off putting but I urge you to persist.

I didn’t expect it but the first session was life altering in itself. This was simply the “getting to know the you” stage but saying the words out loud to Judy provided an overwhelming sense of release and resulted in a surprisingly emotional first session. This was the start of what was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

It’s now 1 month after I have completed therapy and I couldn’t recommend Judy more highly. The key points/takeaways for me were:

We set clear goals and achieved them which disproved my thoughts that therapy was a waste of money/I’d be strung along forever making marginal or temporary improvements.

You have to be completely honest so that Judy can help you (there is never judgement, just help)

I have a greater understanding of myself and my brain than ever before

In order to get the most out of these sessions you must be prepared to apply what you learn in real life.

The techniques and clarity that I have gained have ended the constant mental battle for all of the issues that I felt I had.

Be kind to yourself (for real)

I started to see Maggie as a work coach at a time when I was frustrated with my job and felt like I was working myself into the ground, but not getting any returns. She gave me invaluable advice that made me think about my needs and my worth. Her support made me realise I wasn’t failing, which was an issue for me. Within weeks, I’d left my job. My new confidence meant that, when I was offered a new job, I was able to ask for the role and salary I wanted without feeling like an imposter or that I didn’t deserve it. I’m now in a job I love, and have just been promoted!

My therapy was supposed to just be about work, but Maggie delved into my past and roots and made me see why I was struggling in relationships too. Just like work, I was aiming to please people and feeling like a failure when I couldn’t fix everything. I’m now much more confident and comfortable with who I am, and I understand my feelings more. I’ve been in a great relationship for almost two years now.

The science approach from Maggie appealed to me as I’m not really into the ‘how do you feel about that’ approach constantly. Maggie challenged me, was blunt with me, tested me, but also listened to me and never forgot a previous conversation. I’ve recommended her to numerous friends since and I know she’s helped them massively too.

I undertook 6 months of therapy with Judy and its 6 months I believe has changed my life forever. Judy was professional, eloquent, and non-judgmental. I sought out therapy primarily to help tackle my anxiety and to find someone who can help me understand my thought processes in a more coherent way. I suffered daily from anxiety and my negative thought processes were holding me back a great deal in my relationships with others and above all, myself.

During the first 4-5 sessions, Judy educated me on the impact anxiety has on your body, where it comes from, the scientific understanding of it and techniques to help manage it. This I believe was crucial to my healing. Once I had physical control over my anxiety, we were then able to delve deeper into the triggers. Judy helped me understand things about myself that I would have never been able to achieve alone. Her knowledge and experience really shone through in every aspect of my sessions.

Even during lockdown when i was put at risk of redundancy, Judy adapted our sessions to some career coaching to help me get back on track. Again, I was blown away with her abundance of experience and fast thinking adaptivity to cater for the unpredictable times we have been living in (for the past 3 months especially).

Now that my sessions have temporarily come to a close, I feel that I know myself in a much more clear and coherent way. I understand where my triggers lie when it comes to my anxiety and how to manage them. My relationships, especially with my family are stronger and I have, with Judy’s help, managed to set my own boundaries and stick to them.

During my time with Judy, I never felt that I was holding anything back and that is rare. I saw 3 different therapists before this, none of which really understood and helped me articulate my thoughts like Judy did, this i believe comes from her years of experience and naturally calm and caring demeanor.

I couldn’t recommend Judy enough to anyone suffering from any form of anxiety, depression, family/relationship conflicts or career coaching. Her rationality and sheer understanding of the way our minds work is a rare find and I believe anyone can benefit from this.

I contacted Maggie after I felt my reactions to small irritations were getting out of hand, particularly in my relationship with my partner. I was anxious, angry and upset a lot of the time which was unlike anything I’d experienced before. I saw Maggie for a few months once a week and began to understand why I was reacting the way I was. This understanding was half the battle, and was incredibly revealing. I learned not to let my hurt feelings turn to anger and frustration, and deal with them in a different way. I feel like my old self again now, more in control of my emotions, confident and happy in my relationship. She was sympathetic, caring, open and I think genuinely happy for me to have made such progress. Highly recommended.

Hope all is well with you and thank you once again for everything you did for me, I can’t really put into words how much you helped me (although I’ll try right now!).

I came to Maggie after experiencing problems in my relationships. I seemed to follow the same patterns, and couldn’t identify what the problems were, how to stop repeating myself, break these patterns and make changes for the better. After experiencing several years of the same thing, and seeing no alternative, I made an active decision to do something about it.

Although I was nervous at first, Maggie really seemed to understand the root of the problem, and where everything seemed to stem from and helped me make steps to break free of the problematic routines of my relationships.

I now have the confidence to make changes, and assess situations with an open mind, and walk away from things if it isn’t right, where I would never have had the strength to be able to do so before.

I contacted KlearMinds after struggling to deal with anger that was ruining my relationship with my partner. I am very lucky that I found Judy. I had tried another therapist in the past but it did not work for me. 

Judy took me through an intensive 12 week course that delved into my past to see how this impacts present actions and emotions. I learnt how to link my physical and body reactions to real emotions through this scientific and structured approach to anger management. Judy was very kind, caring and gave me the hope and confidence I needed to make a change. Since starting the sessions I have been more positive and things have improved with my partner.

When I came to see Maggie I was very depressed, but also very cynical about the benefits of seeing a therapist. I was working as a sales director for a large city firm, which I thought was what I wanted, but I had very little confidence in my abilities, and no idea why. I also had very bad relationships with my partner and family, finding it almost impossible to talk about my feelings. Over the course of the last 10 months Maggie has helped me to understand why I was feeling and behaving as I was, and help me to turn things around so that I am now very happy with my lot in life.

At first there appeared to be little structure to our sessions and I did question why I was spending the money “just talking” to a stranger. But after a few months the pieces of the jigsaw started to fit together and a lot of things started to make sense to me.

I have now left the industry that I was in – Maggie helped me discover that I basically hated what I had been doing for the past 8 years, driven by a desire to have an “impressive” job rather than one which I enjoyed. My relationship with my partner is now fantastic, as are my relationships with my family. And I am much more comfortable talking to them about my feelings. I am also no longer a cynic about the power of the subconscious mind and the value of spending time with a first class therapist like Maggie. It’s not easy, and sometimes I dreaded going to our sessions, but the results are definitely worth the effort.

Maggie, thank you so much for all of your work with me this year. I really don’t know where I would be now if it hadn’t been for your help. I am so much happier now than I have been in many, many, years and am looking forward to the next stage of my life!