Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
in London

I decided to try therapy after my relationship ended. I wanted to understand why it failed (I blamed myself for it as I have thought that I was “broken”) and I wanted to understand what I was doing wrong and how to change it. I also wanted to be more open, to communicate better, to feel more confident and in control of my life and to be more optimistic about my future.

During therapy we talked about my patterns in behaviour, the way I relate to my partners, the way I think and feel and what do I tell myself in critical situations. We also talked about my childhood and how it influenced the way I am now. The first outcome of the therapy was that I stopped blaming myself for my failed relationship. I realised that I was in fact in an abusive relationship and I also understood why. This discovery has given me an enormous feeling of relief. I felt physically lighter as if a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders. Even my friends have noticed this change and were commenting that I seem more relaxed, happier and that I smile more.

Once the relationship issues have been sorted and put aside we started to talk about me, what I wanted and about my future goals. At the beginning it seemed as a daunting task as every time I tried to think about my future I ended up feeling depressed, anxious and stuck. I felt like all the good things were behind me and there was nothing there to look forward. Again we talked about my childhood. I realised that I had a limited influence over my parent’s behaviour and that in fact they had failed me, not the other way round. I stopped blaming myself for my childhood and I understood that I am not “broken” as I have thought all my life. Again this discovery has given me a huge feeling of relief.

After 3 months of therapy I feel stronger and more in control, I trust and respect myself more. I also feel happier and more optimistic about my future. I know there will be ups and downs but I feel that I can handle them. I feel that I will be OK.

I really enjoyed working with Daniella. She was genuinely concerned about my issues and committed to making a difference. Sometimes I would came to the session feeling heavy and blank, as if I had nothing to say and she was able to ask questions that led to the interesting interpretations and as a consequence I felt better; I felt motivated and inspired. She helped me to look at my childhood and at my life differently; by asking questions I have not thought of asking myself, naming the obvious but somehow forgotten; by pointing out patterns that were destructive and helping me to understand where they came from and how to change them. It was thoroughly insightful and satisfying experience.

I first came to see Maggie when every area of my life seemed to be going wrong, and I felt I wanted to take control and turn things around. Maggie helped me to do that. She helped me to realise that its all about the way you react to something, and that you can change your thought processes.

I now realise that you have options, and that it is within your own power to change things around. I am very grateful to Maggie for helping me to see things a different way, and giving me the tools to be a better, calmer, more confident version of myself. I can honestly say I now feel happy the majority of the time and if I don’t, I know how to deal with it.

Thanks again Maggie for everything!

I came to see Daniella when I was absolutely convinced that I was never going to feel happy again. I broke down in tears every day and felt overwhelmed by small setbacks. As clichéd as it sounds, at that time for me, there was no light at the end of the tunnel and I had sought help to try and find a way to reconcile myself with the fact I would be miserable for the rest of my life.

I had never been to see a therapist before but from the first session (when I said very little and cried a lot), I trusted Daniella and felt comfortable with her. By enabling me to accept that I had been affected by certain experiences and that it was OK that those experiences had affected me, Daniella helped me realise that I wasn’t necessarily always going to feel this way. I started therapy feeling ashamed, like I’d failed and that I should be able to cope with life on my own. Daniella made me see that it was ok to talk to a professional and took the stigma away for me. I have since told quite a few of my friends and their reaction has been nothing but positive.

I could not tell you how Daniella does what she does. All I know is that she made me feel secure enough to face things I had previously avoided by listening, pushing me when I needed it and seemingly being really invested in the journey I took with her.

As a nervous first-timer I was unsure about signing up for lots of sessions but Daniella suggested I do 3 week blocks and then review. I ended up doing 12 sessions in all and I left feeling calmer, more hopeful and happier. I couldn’t ask for more than that.

I had a problem with anger made more difficult by lockdown – after a number of excellent sessions with Maggie, I had an understanding of my triggers and what to do to try and manage them. A really great help – I cannot recommend her more strongly.

The review shows how a client uses our review request guidelines to feedback on his experience of working with his therapist Belinda Wilson:

It was a fascinating journey and I learnt a lot about myself, lessons I will hold on to going forward. It is a massive relief for me to get to a clear headspace. Your insights were very reassuring to me.

Here is my feedback:

What problem(s) brought you to see me:
I was feeling depressed and stuck in a mental maze of negative thoughts.

How you found the experience of therapy itself and working with me:
I was a little bit skeptical having had some less than helpful psychologists in the past, however this was much different, I felt like your insights were non-judgmental but really cut to the core of what my issues were.

What you’ve learnt / improvements therapy has made for you in your life:
You helped me to identify my personal needs and to respect myself more than I had been. You also facilitated the space for me to come to these realisations and to really believe them myself. It has also been helpful to have some strategies to combat future mental issues.

Thanks again Belinda for all your help, it has been very helpful to me.

When I came to see Jo I was feeling very low. I found it hard “to see the wood for the trees” as I had been feeling stressed for so long. I found Jo very understanding and she quickly helped me to clearly identify the matters which were affecting me most. She really helped me to understand why I was feeling the way I was and what I needed to do to change the things which were impacting negatively upon my emotional well-being.

After a few sessions with Jo I felt like a different person. Jo also helped me to reflect in a more positive way upon my history and helped me to see the very positive things in my life. If I have any difficulties in the future I will not hesitate to contact her again and I would highly recommend her.

I found Vybra really easy to talk to. I was nervous about therapy/counselling but she had a very relaxed approach and I felt comfortable quickly. Even if you find it hard to talk, I think these counselling sessions are worthwhile as it is like putting together a jigsaw puzzle which has got all messed up.

This very busy, professional couple wanted to stop arguments which were occurring with increasing frequency. They were really concerned their relationship would break up. They wanted to improve their communication skills so they could trust each other and save their relationship. After 4 double sessions with Maggie, here’s what they have to say:

We found Maggie to be a huge help in our request for improving our communication skills. Maggie will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it is linked to so you understand you a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique, not just for you as a couple, but for you and all your relationships. She is also warm and fun which really helps!:)

We now communicate better and understand one another… invaluable and life changing. Many thanks again.

I found my time in therapy with Judy a very positive experience. I had therapy with Judy for about a year and a half. I suffer from generalised anxiety, social anxiety, depression and porn addiction. I tried therapy about ten years ago and it helped me considerably, but I had fallen back into old thinking patterns and forgotten many of the tools I learned.

I tried other therapists a couple of times for several months which didn’t help, but I could tell in the first session Judy was likely to be able to help me. It’s important to find the right therapist for you.

The things I found most helpful about therapy with Judy were:

I felt comfortable talking about very personal things without feeling judged. Talking about my thoughts made me more conscious of them and enabled me to figure out why I felt anxious and/or depressed. With Judy’s help and a different perspective, I was able to challenge negative thoughts and break down problems or issues I faced and come up with a wide range of possible solutions. This process made me feel like a weight was lifted, helped me make much better life decisions and gave me more confidence to go through with things I wanted to do instead of being too scared.

I learned many techniques I could draw upon if I started to feel down or anxious. Having these tools made my emotions feel more manageable. I started to feel more in control and self-sufficient when dealing with negative thoughts and emotions, though this took time and practice.
Learning about the nervous system and how anxiety works helped me understand how I could interrupt the vicious cycle of anxiety. The extra support therapy gave me helped me to feel less isolated and alone with my problems.

The changes I’ve made in my life since starting therapy have made me feel more aligned with myself and significantly increased my levels of happiness. In addition to therapy, I’ve tried medication (sertraline) which I think has made a big difference too. The combination of these two approaches has worked well for me.

It’s not that everything is amazing all the time, I still have anxiety issues but nowhere near as intensely and when I do experience anxiety, it doesn’t bother me as much. I also don’t get the catastrophic lows that I frequently used to experience. I’m happier, more positive and optimistic, I have closer relationships with my family, my feelings of loneliness have almost gone entirely and I’m pursuing a career I feel passionate about. I’m able to look forward to things again and enjoy social situations with good friends. For these reasons, I would recommend therapy with Judy.

I’m still a work in progress but I’ve noticed a big improvement in my life and how I feel.

Me and the people around me in my life were of the opinion that therapy was a waste of money and that many of the regular intense feelings that I had every day (anger, doubt in myself, my choices and my relationships) and the overthinking/analysis that I performed in order to help “figure these things out” were just “part of the parcel of life” and that I should just calm down and get on with it.

Knowing therapy was always an option, I took the hard approach for over 10 years. My views were “I’m a mentally strong man and I will battle this every day and NEVER break like others around me” “I won’t show a chink in my armour or any sign of weakness in a million years” “I will outlast a weak minded society and continue being successful in life and on a pathway that I decide is best for me” “the world is wrong – the news, social media (professional and social) reports are jumping on the bandwagon and giving in to the “snowflake generation” by constantly mollycoddling society and simply ticking a box with their focus on mental health”

I thought that all I needed were close family and friends to talk to about what I was going through and that this would be enough to reassure myself that I was fine and that I was on the right path regardless. Whilst this approach was very helpful and probably a major reason why I didn’t end up in a terrible state, this only provided relief for short periods and I was always back to square one again very quickly. After all i was someone who often doubted myself and others.

Everything came on top at one particular point and fortunately I was able to recognise this along with the people who were close to me (through my openness with them they were able to spot this too). There was no “major event” that triggered this however I concluded that I had to take action if I was to prevent an entire lifetime fighting a constant and unsustainable mental battle every day.

I thoroughly researched therapists and decided that Judy was the most qualified person to help me. The descriptions / biographies on Klearminds allowed me to do this a lot easier than other websites and if you are reluctant to try therapy this process can be off putting but I urge you to persist.

I didn’t expect it but the first session was life altering in itself. This was simply the “getting to know the you” stage but saying the words out loud to Judy provided an overwhelming sense of release and resulted in a surprisingly emotional first session. This was the start of what was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

It’s now 1 month after I have completed therapy and I couldn’t recommend Judy more highly. The key points/takeaways for me were:

We set clear goals and achieved them which disproved my thoughts that therapy was a waste of money/I’d be strung along forever making marginal or temporary improvements.

You have to be completely honest so that Judy can help you (there is never judgement, just help)

I have a greater understanding of myself and my brain than ever before

In order to get the most out of these sessions you must be prepared to apply what you learn in real life.

The techniques and clarity that I have gained have ended the constant mental battle for all of the issues that I felt I had.

Be kind to yourself (for real)

I am 61 and in 2021 I was going through a turbulent time with my marriage as we were both thinking we might be better off going our separate ways. I found that having a regular appointment to talk was like a lifeline at times…knowing I just had to get through to the next appointment. Talking with Dhanesh not only helped me clarify what was going on in my mind but also forced me to consider a little deeper than I would have done on my own.

I didn’t want to burden a friend and also I felt a disloyalty towards my husband by discussing our relationship with someone I know. Talking to a professional counsellor was a much better option for me. It was a very helpful and positive experience and I would highly recommend Dhanesh.

​​Karen has helped me turn my life around. From a complete relationship knot and career uncertainty, Karen unlocked my thoughts and guided me through making decisions about my future. Even though I had open conversations with friends, it was Karen’s expertise and guidance that really made me see clearly the path ahead. She prepared me for what to expect and walked through what happened at each turn. I will be forever grateful for what Karen did for me and can recommend her without hesitation.

I came across Mita and KlearMinds when I was going through a rough patch and needed someone to help and listen. Mita was phenomenal from the first meeting, always attentive, never judgmental and helped me with coping strategies to get me through such a difficult time. Looking back on it now I do not know how I would have got to where I am now without her support and would recommend KlearMinds and especially Mita to anyone in a similar position.