If you’re at the midpoint of your life and your first career is leaving your bored, empty or worn out, it may be time to find a new path. But how? And to do what? Are you itching to make a mark on the world by starting your own business or write a novel? Do you feel the need to give back to society, or simply slow down and do something more ‘meaningful’ with your life? Perhaps you’re just not sure?
Not only are these big questions to deal with, the implications of what you decide to do (or not do) will affect the rest of your life. That’s why it is important to resist the urge to find a quick solution and take your time to really do your homework.
Challenge yourself to some hard questions, talk to friends and colleagues, get some individual Career Coaching help or consider life coaching. Oh, and don’t forget to see a financial adviser too.
Tune into your personal needs and priorities
Whether you call it soul searching or navel gazing, you need to be clear about who you are and what you want out of life. What makes you happy? What excites you and fills you with passion?
There are lots of tools you can use, tests you can take and questionnaires you can fill in to help you get closer to the answer. Some are free, some are self-assessment, some can be found online – but the most valuable ones will be guided by an experienced counsellor or coach to help you assess your skills, interests, values and personality traits so that you can make sense of the results.
Mine your own back story for clues
If you’re struggling to define the road map to your future, start by going back to your past. There’s no need to write your autobiography (though it’s an interesting exercise if you’re that way inclined) but do try to identify and write down critical events, significant achievements and influential relationships that have shaped your life.
As a result of this task, you may be surprised to find obvious answers to questions such as ‘What do I want more or less of in my life?’ or ‘What gives me most energy and pride in my job?’ or ‘What do I need to be happy?’
Don’t shy away from professional help
Misplaced pride or shyness have no place in your plans for a major life and career transition – you should use all the help you can find. Expert career coaches and counsellors are experienced in dealing with exactly your type of situation and can help you identify skills, set goals and draw up action plans, while providing emotional support throughout the process.
Financial planners are useful allies to help you crunch numbers and see whether your chosen new career or activity is affordable, how to optimise your funds and secure your retirement.
Put your toe in the water first
Research has shown that midlife adults have more success with experientially based rather than analytically based transitions. Often, it’s a case of trying out new ideas and seeing what works for you.
Take a business course and work in a small company to see if you’ve got what it takes to be an entrepreneur. Volunteer for an animal charity, work in a care home or become a teaching assistant to see if you’re cut out for a caring profession. Get qualifications on a part-time basis in your chosen field, be it stockbroking or publishing, gardening or yoga.
Dipping your toe in the water in this way allows you to gain hands-on experience, while minimising the risk, before you commit fully.
The Christmas season is upon us and the team at KlearMinds would like to extend their very best wishes to all our clients past and present.
We all need a little help sometimes. With the right approach, positive change can happen fast. Our experienced therapists can help you understand the challenges you are facing and show you the steps you can take to make things better.
Our therapists have qualified from some of the UK’s foremost training institutions, with many years’ experience in working in the NHS, private practices and charity organisations. They are registered with recognised government bodies in the field: CPC, UKCP, BACP and BPS.
By choosing KlearMinds, you don’t just benefit from our team’s award winning leadership. Each of our therapists is trained in a range of counselling, life coaching and psychotherapy approaches. That way, we can tailor our approach to suit your learning style and give you the best opportunity for positive results.
But there’s no need to take our word for it.
We’re delighted to have received many positive reviews from past clients including these comments:
“I had tried counselling before and thought it wasn’t for me. I now realise that finding the right counsellor makes all the difference. As a result I feel in control, grounded and confident in all parts of my life and most importantly, I feel capable of moving forward.”
“Outstanding at providing me with what I needed, not as a “quick fix” but by giving me the tools to use whenever I may need them in the future.”
“Straight away Maggie was warm, kind and understanding… I didn’t want to be in therapy for a long time, I just wanted to get better, get on with my life… I cannot recommend Maggie highly enough to you. Whilst life still presents me with challenges I can cope with them as I feel so much stronger now – I owe her much.”
“My relationship with my partner is now fantastic, as are my relationships with my family… I am so much happier now than I have been in many, many, years.”
You’ve no doubt heard the term ‘Life Coaching’ being bandied about, but do you really understand what it is, and how it can help you? Let’s take a closer look at Life Coaching and the 4 key questions you should be asking.
1 – What is a Life Coach?
In a nutshell, a Life Coach is someone who can help you build confidence, overcome blocks to success and help you achieve your personal and/or professional goals and improve the quality of your life. This can include being more successful at work, becoming happier and more fulfilled at home, exploring your ‘self’ and achieving ambitions.
Just as a sports coach can help an athlete to develop into the strongest, fastest or most tactical competitor in his chosen field, a Life Coach can do the same for people from all walks of life to help them be the best they can be.
The Life Coach will do this with the help of specialist techniques that are based on psychological principles and personal intuition, giving you the tools to face tricky situations, overcome emotional barriers and see the world with new eyes.
Rather than simply giving advice, a Life Coach will adhere to the fundamental principles of life coaching:
- Subjectivity – No one’s view is right or wrong, but some perspectives can restrict the person to be who they want to be.
- Empowerment – With the help of Life Coaching, the individual can learn to open his mind and adjust his own perspective.
- Guidance – Rather than giving instruction, a Life Coach provides the tools and support for personal development.
2 – What is the difference between Life Coaching and Counselling?
Essentially, counselling therapies involve some form of investigation into the roots and causes of potential or actual mental issues or health problems, in order to define a way forward.
Life Coaching, on the other hand, tends to look forward, not back. Its approach chiefly focuses on the future to encourage personal improvement and development.
Life Coaches are not usually qualified to diagnose, advise or deal with any health related problems. If a health issues arises, you may be asked to see your GP.
3 – What issues can Life Coaching help with?
A Life Coach can use effective techniques to help you in all aspects of life, including your performance, your business life or personal life. Whatever you may be struggling with, working with a Life Coach can help you get there. Issues include
4 – What happens during a Life Coaching session?
Life Coaching sessions are typically for a set duration, usually 45-60 minutes, and may be given face to face, over the phone, email or via Skype. During the session, you will be working with the Life Coach to talk about the areas in your life that you are unhappy with or that you would like to change.
Life Coaching should be a partnership between you and your coach. It is up to him/her to gently encourage you to explore and challenge your previously held perceptions, so that you can move forward with your life.
While a Life Coach should offer support and feedback to help you stay focused on your goals and move forward towards positive changes in your life, you will never be forced to make any decisions that you don’t feel happy with.
It should go without saying that all sessions, and the relationship between you and your Life Coach, is based on confidentiality, so that you have a safe space within which to explore your new direction.
At KlearMinds, we take an integrated approach towards Life Coaching in order to help you achieve positive changes that can be sustained for life. By combining Life Coaching with additional therapies, we can offer you the best possible guidance towards a happier you.
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If you would like to discover the path in life that will make you feel happiest and most fulfilled, following in the steps of those who’ve achieved this, is a sure recipe for success.
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