Harness your midlife feelings and make a career change

Posted February 5th, 2018

Man choosing a path

If you’re at the midpoint of your life and your first career is leaving your bored, empty or worn out, it may be time to find a new path. But how? And to do what? Are you itching to make a mark on the world by starting your own business or write a novel? Do you feel the need to give back to society, or simply slow down and do something more ‘meaningful’ with your life? Perhaps you’re just not sure?

Not only are these big questions to deal with, the implications of what you decide to do (or not do) will affect the rest of your life. That’s why it is important to resist the urge to find a quick solution and take your time to really do your homework.

Challenge yourself to some hard questions, talk to friends and colleagues, get some individual Career Coaching help or consider life coaching. Oh, and don’t forget to see a financial adviser too.

Tune into your personal needs and priorities

Whether you call it soul searching or navel gazing, you need to be clear about who you are and what you want out of life. What makes you happy? What excites you and fills you with passion?

There are lots of tools you can use, tests you can take and questionnaires you can fill in to help you get closer to the answer. Some are free, some are self-assessment, some can be found online – but the most valuable ones will be guided by an experienced counsellor or coach to help you assess your skills, interests, values and personality traits so that you can make sense of the results.

Mine your own back story for clues

If you’re struggling to define the road map to your future, start by going back to your past. There’s no need to write your autobiography (though it’s an interesting exercise if you’re that way inclined) but do try to identify and write down critical events, significant achievements and influential relationships that have shaped your life.

As a result of this task, you may be surprised to find obvious answers to questions such as ‘What do I want more or less of in my life?’ or ‘What gives me most energy and pride in my job?’ or ‘What do I need to be happy?’

Don’t shy away from professional help

Misplaced pride or shyness have no place in your plans for a major life and career transition – you should use all the help you can find. Expert career coaches and counsellors are experienced in dealing with exactly your type of situation and can help you identify skills, set goals and draw up action plans, while providing emotional support throughout the process.

Financial planners are useful allies to help you crunch numbers and see whether your chosen new career or activity is affordable, how to optimise your funds and secure your retirement.

Put your toe in the water first

Research has shown that midlife adults have more success with experientially based rather than analytically based transitions. Often, it’s a case of trying out new ideas and seeing what works for you.

Take a business course and work in a small company to see if you’ve got what it takes to be an entrepreneur. Volunteer for an animal charity, work in a care home or become a teaching assistant to see if you’re cut out for a caring profession. Get qualifications on a part-time basis in your chosen field, be it stockbroking or publishing, gardening or yoga.

Dipping your toe in the water in this way allows you to gain hands-on experience, while minimising the risk, before you commit fully.

Filled Under: Career, Life Coaching

What to do when you’re being bullied at work

Posted September 30th, 2016

Bullying at work

It is a sad fact that bullying in the workplace is all too common. This very real and serious problem will affect one in two adults at some point during their careers.

What is bullying?

Bullying can take many forms, but essentially it is an attempt to undermine, upset or control another person. Rather than an isolated incident, it is the repeated and sustained negative behaviour that can cause so much damage to your self-confidence and self-worth (more…)

Filled Under: Career

10 tips to beat stress at work

Posted September 25th, 2016

Reduce stress at work

When you’re feeling under pressure at work, stress can build up very quickly. Symptoms are far reaching and can affect you on an emotional as well as a physical level. Are you suffering from headaches, frequent colds, low energy or sleeping problems? Do you regularly feel overwhelmed, become easily frustrated or angered, or is your self-esteem is suffering? It may be time to take action. (more…)

Filled Under: Career

8 tips on how to find Direction in Life and enjoy the journey

Posted July 25th, 2014

Find Life Purpose & Life Direction

If you would like to discover the path in life that will make you feel happiest and most fulfilled, following in the steps of those who’ve achieved this, is a sure recipe for success.


People who are both happy and successful, adopt certain habits and principles which form the bedrock for their achievements.



Tips for Dealing with a Bullying Boss

Posted March 22nd, 2012

Are you are stressed or frustrated by bullying at work from your boss? Do you find your boss controlling, demanding, unreasonable, aggressive, rude, unsupportive or just plain incompetent?

If you are fed up and want a better work life, this article highlights a few effective strategies you can use to improve your relationship with your boss and enjoy a happier working life.

Many people don’t realise that individuals who act in an unreasonable or bullying manner, are trying to defend themselves because they are fearful underneath and lack self-confidence. Under duress, some who lack inner confidence will adopt unreasonable, bullying or controlling behaviour to try and “feel safe” again and prevent others noticing their fear. On the surface they may appear confident and aggressive, however, unreasonable behaviour actually indicates someone trying to manage fear.

Understanding the fear behind a bully’s actions gives you more power to deal with them. Instead of thinking this person is trying to persecute me, you recognise this person is frightened. By using strategies to deal with a person who is frightened you can get a much better result. (more…)

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